backhanded compliment

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Re: backhanded compliment

Post by SeokhyunHong » Mon Mar 22, 2010 4:12 pm

I used to give my friend lots of backhanded compliments like, "You are too handsome to be dadting anyone."

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Re: backhanded compliment

Post by Parksojung » Mon Mar 22, 2010 4:15 pm

If you know Jo kwon, you will understand that this is a backhanded compliment; Jo kwon sings very well, for a gagman.

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Re: backhanded compliment

Post by Seo Jieun » Mon Mar 22, 2010 4:31 pm

I have gained weight during winter vacation. When a new semester starts, people give a backhanded compliment "you seem to become thinner"

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Re: backhanded compliment

Post by leesso » Mon Mar 22, 2010 4:43 pm

I stayed uncle's house when I was in the states. As the days passed, I made some serious mistakes to him. One day uncle said to me " You're so smart", but somehow it sounded like a backhanded comliment to me.

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Re: backhanded compliment

Post by Kim, Do Hyeong » Mon Mar 22, 2010 5:33 pm

My brother used to give a backhanded compliment about my clothes.

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Re: backhanded compliment

Post by Kim Hyoungjoo » Tue Mar 23, 2010 12:05 pm

Whem somone gives me a backhanded complimnet, I feel bad.

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Re: backhanded compliment

Post by Hwang Yoo Na » Tue Mar 23, 2010 1:55 pm

One day, I told my brother that your singing was really good. It was a backhanded compliment. But, he doesn't realize it.

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Re: backhanded compliment

Post by Jae Eun Cho » Tue Mar 23, 2010 5:13 pm

Everytime I meet my boyfriend's ex-girlfriend, she says to me, " You've got the most beautiful face I've ever seen." I wanted to believe it but I could realize that it was a backhanded compliment trying to insult me.

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Re: backhanded compliment

Post by James Trotta » Sat Apr 03, 2010 9:19 am

I don't get it. Her clothes maybe? What do you say?
Han Dong Geol wrote:My sister says i always gives her backhanded compliment about he cloth.

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Re: backhanded compliment

Post by James Trotta » Sat Apr 03, 2010 9:21 am

This is not exactly a backhanded compliment - more like a lie told to suck up to the teacher.
한지웅 wrote:A student in our class told the professor that he thinks that this lecture is the best thing ever but I heard him say in the men’s toilet that it was actually boring. I was quite shocked by his backhanded compliment.

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Re: backhanded compliment

Post by James Trotta » Sat Apr 03, 2010 9:22 am

Manly? Why would that be a backhanded compliment?
Shin Ye Sung wrote:He was glad that she told him he is very manful. I think that is a backhanded compliment.

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Re: backhanded compliment

Post by James Trotta » Sat Apr 03, 2010 9:23 am

Like what?
Kim, Do Hyeong wrote:My brother used to give a backhanded compliment about my clothes.

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Re: backhanded compliment

Post by hNicole » Fri Jan 28, 2011 5:38 am

Backhanded compliments might insult someone. If we wanted to speak to anyone about the things that they should first know, tell them directly. I remembered one of my friends gave a backhanded compliment to one of our classmates about her hair before, it was too bad!

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Re: backhanded compliment

Post by James Trotta » Fri Feb 25, 2011 3:54 am

Nice hair! Did you cut it yourself?
hNicole wrote:Backhanded compliments might insult someone. If we wanted to speak to anyone about the things that they should first know, tell them directly. I remembered one of my friends gave a backhanded compliment to one of our classmates about her hair before, it was too bad!

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Re: backhanded compliment

Post by elevenoclock_jiminyoon » Sat Mar 19, 2011 3:41 pm

Hello! ^o^

While I was skimming through this thread, I noticed several posts..
Many of these are more like sarcastic remarks, more so than backhanded compliments..

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Let's say that Alfred thinks he's a really amazing singer.. but he's actually very bad..
Alfred sang a few songs to Betty..
Her reaction could be one of the following..


Scenario 1
Betty: That's a nice song!
Alfred: Thanks!
Betty (to herself): My ears! They bleed!!!!
::This is what is commonly called a "white lie" .. It's a lie used daily by almost everyone.. whether it's done purposely or habitually...
::Technically.. Betty didn't completely lie.. All she said was that it was a nice song.. she never said anything about Alfred's singing!

Scenario 2
Betty: You have a voice of an angel.. Your talents are wasted here.. really..
Alfred: ......thanks? ...I guess??
Betty: You're welcome.
::This is sarcasm. It's hard to type sarcasm.. but yes.. It's when you say the opposite of what you mean.. but make it over-dramatic.
::Sarcasm is usually easy to pick up due to the emphasizing of certain words (in this case, "really").. but some sarcastic remarks can be made without emphasis. The "really" is hard to pick up.. so Alfred's reaction was a bit confused..

Scenario 3
Betty: I used to like that song.. until today..
Alfred: Well, excuse me, princess..
Betty: You're excused.
::This is just mean.. Betty clearly added in "until today" to show that she thought Alfred ruined one of her liked songs..
::Alfred's retort wasn't any less mean.. He was the one being sarcastic, this time.

Scenario 4
Betty: Not bad for a beginner!
Alfred: ...b-beginner? ...............
::This is a backhanded compliment. Betty states that he's "not bad".. and then adds in "beginner," meaning that he's not a good singer.
::I suppose Alfred wanted some sort of other response from Betty.. He doesn't really think of himself as a beginner, I guess haha..

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Wow.. I wrote a lot..
Um.. I don't know how much this is going to be helpful (or not)..
But I did my best.. If anyone would like to point out any corrections, please do so!
I'll edit it asap!

-Jimi

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