Are Korean girls all lesbian?

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HUFS Jessica
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Are Korean girls all lesbian?

Post by HUFS Jessica » Thu Mar 22, 2007 1:01 pm

In Korea it is very common for girls to take each other's hand by the hand or to be in arm in arm. Taking a walk girls usually lock arms with each other even though we are not lovers but just friends. And we don't think it is weird at all. Actually it seems weird between boys though. We think this gesture between girls as a kind of expression of friendliness, and we can also feel closeness through this gesture.

But I heard that it is really a weird thing in America and if you do this act, people will think you're a lesbian. So I think it can be a big culrural shock to Americans when they come to Korea and see hundreds and thousands of girls walking arm in arm in popular places like Myoungdong and so on. They could think that lesbians are poplular in Korea. haha :P

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Post by Inha(42)KwonSuMin » Thu Mar 22, 2007 3:59 pm

Occasionally, They are maybe lesbian. but I think the gesture are expression of friendship. Korean girls think frendly gesture that take eachother's hand by the hand. The korean girl I know said to me that to be arm in arm is not only friendly gesture but also to keep warm in chilly weather. and She said the gesture means "We are very friendly.".

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Post by Inha(42) Kim Hyung Woo » Fri Mar 23, 2007 9:24 am

Korea has a singular saying that " Men go to public bath with his friend to make best friend, but Girl go to public bath with her friend after they was best friend" It's mean 'Skinship is important to friendship but girl different from men' Most men express friendship to hit, but girl express friendship to skinship.
In conclusion, I put oneself in her's place, I take my best friend one's back. :shock:

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Post by James Trotta » Fri Mar 23, 2007 2:27 pm

Can you explain this part please - I don't understand exactly.
Inha(42) Kim Hyung Woo wrote:In conclusion, I put oneself in her's place, I take my best friend one's back. :shock:
Also, see this thread for my advice on not using the word skinship.

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My experience..

Post by Inha(11)LeeKyungBin » Sun Mar 25, 2007 4:54 pm

I have a similar experience with this story.
When I walked in Vancouver, Canada with my brother, I put my hand on my brother's shoulder. Then, my brother told me Canadian could think that we are gays. Because he stayed in Vancouver for a few months, he knew Canadian culture a little. Not only in Canada but also in the USA, Physical contact with same sex can be considered as a gay or a lesbian.
In Korea, it is common that girls walk the street with grasping their hands and boys talk with putting arms a round each other's shoulders. These actions are expressions of friendliness. Like these examples, even tiny actions can be totally different meanings in other culture. In order to prevent misunderstanding, it is important to know and respect other cultures.

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It's really interesting that foreigner think that way.

Post by Inha(906)JungChulUng » Wed Jan 16, 2008 5:26 am

I got asked that questions a lot of times from my fellows.
They really wonder why.
But I don't know why Korean girls do that too. lol
So I just told them it's just korean culture between really good friends.
Then the guys walk down street holding each other's hands.

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It's really interesting that foreigner think that way.

Post by Inha(906)JungChulUng » Wed Jan 16, 2008 5:28 am

I got asked that questions a lot of times from my fellows.
They really wonder why.
But I don't know why Korean girls do that too. lol
So I just told them it's just korean culture between really good friends.
Then the guys walk down street holding each other's hands.

Inha(906)JungChulUng
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It's really interesting that foreigner think that way.

Post by Inha(906)JungChulUng » Wed Jan 16, 2008 5:28 am

I got asked that questions a lot of times from my fellows.
They really wonder why.
But I don't know why Korean girls do that too. lol
So I just told them it's just korean culture between really good friends.
Then the guys walk down street holding each other's hands.

Inha(906)JungChulUng
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It's really interesting that foreigner think that way.

Post by Inha(906)JungChulUng » Wed Jan 16, 2008 5:29 am

I got asked that questions a lot of times from my fellows.
They really wonder why.
But I don't know why Korean girls do that too. lol
So I just told them it's just korean culture between really good friends.
Then the guys walk down street holding each other's hands.

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Re: Are Korean girls all lesbian?

Post by 201020495 Park Na Hye » Sun May 15, 2011 7:27 am

i'm agree with u
last time i was walking with my foreign friend.
and to me it's usual thing to hold hands each other so i did it.
and she was shocked and said "what are u doing????"
i was embarassed. and i asked is there something wrong?
through that i learned holding hands together is a weird thing.
and i never did that again
:)

201020491 Nam Hak yeon
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Re: Are Korean girls all lesbian?

Post by 201020491 Nam Hak yeon » Sun May 15, 2011 8:01 am

I agree with you~
I think that doing those gestures that you mentioned is a kind of expression about familiarity between not boys but 'girls' in Korea.

I have a experience related this subject.
I have a cousin who had lived for long time in the U.S.A.
She is very familiar with me. When she came back to Korea, i tried to take her arm.
But she said to me "Are you lesbian?" refusing my expression of familiarity.
At that time, I was very embarassed. After, i became known that she behaved like that because american culture is different from Korea.

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Re: Are Korean girls all lesbian?

Post by 200920610 OhMiRae » Sun May 15, 2011 8:59 am

I think most Korean girls are not lesbian. :shock:
I think that is cultural differences.
In Korea, friends are able to walk hand in hand and walk arm in arm.
It is not strange. It is expression friendship. :P

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Re: Are Korean girls all lesbian?

Post by 200820791 Hwang Kwang-Ik » Sun May 15, 2011 1:30 pm

I heard that before.
some foreiners was shocked when come to korea frist.
because thare are so many lesbian !!
but they are not lesbian.
Asian culture and european culture is different.
if you are in Europe, holding hands of same sex
they will be regarede as a strange people.

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Re: Are Korean girls all lesbian?

Post by 201020690 ahn sung real » Sun May 15, 2011 1:50 pm

Haha me too !i heard that!!
i'm korean but i think that is so weird..
how same gender have skinship..
oh..
i think that is little weird..

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Re: Are Korean girls all lesbian?

Post by Mcmorning/nagyeongahn » Mon Jun 06, 2011 9:25 am

Well, those kind of expressions happen between little girls. These days, not many grown up girls don't do that.
But for little girls you can't say that they look like lesbians.
I guess today many girls are taking the Western style of concept in friendship.

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