Should a Woman Offer to Pay?

Talk about dating, breaking up, getting married, etc. This is where you can talk about units 2 & 4 in Authentic English Readings for Advanced Students.
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201020865JooDanbi
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Re: Should women pay for date?

Post by 201020865JooDanbi » Sun May 15, 2011 6:45 am

I agree you opinion, too.
these day, a lot of women think women should pay for date.
of course, some people still have wrong thinking.
I think that can be a sexual discrimination.

201020346 KimSunKyung
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Re: Should women pay for date?

Post by 201020346 KimSunKyung » Sun May 15, 2011 6:56 am

I'm for it too.
I think Paying cost each other equally means begining of 'gender equality'
then, what about you? DO YOU have a lover? if so, do you pay for date much more than he? i wonder

201020690 ahn sung real
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Re: Should women pay for date?

Post by 201020690 ahn sung real » Sun May 15, 2011 1:53 pm

um.. i think same pay is right
at first meeting how know each other
and gender is just different
so i think pay is same!

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Re: Should women pay for date?

Post by 201021351 ka young » Sun May 15, 2011 1:58 pm

I agree your opinion.
I think women and man pay for date equally.
But I don't like dutch.
I mean 'equally' is one pay for lunch, then the other pay for desert.

201020468soo-hyun
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Re: Should women pay for date?

Post by 201020468soo-hyun » Sun May 15, 2011 2:14 pm

I think women should pay for date too. But I have no money.....
Last Friday, my boyfriend's birthday, so I bought dinner to him and gave present.
Almost everytime, we pay for date alternately.
If one of us make money, that person pay for date much more.
But we are student and get pocket monet our parent. So we have to make payment alternately.

201020665 Tae-joon
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Re: Should a Woman Offer to Pay?

Post by 201020665 Tae-joon » Sun May 15, 2011 2:22 pm

I think it doesn't matter who pay something.
alternating pay something is good.
and usually have spare money people pay is nice situation

201020629 Namhee
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Re: Should women pay for date?

Post by 201020629 Namhee » Sun May 15, 2011 2:48 pm

I agree with your main point. Women have to pay for a date. Some women think that men have to pay for everything,
but it's an old-fashioned way of thinking. They should change their minds to be an independent woman.
WE are independent women, we shouldn't always rely on men. However, I don't agree with the 'dutch treat' because it looks too cold.
I recommand if a woman treats meal then a man treats dessert like that. How do you think of this way?

200820937 Jun-Ha Choe
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Re: Should women pay for date?

Post by 200820937 Jun-Ha Choe » Sun May 15, 2011 3:52 pm

The man has no money.

Men and women are the same person.

Naturally, women must pay.

You should change your thinking.

This idea is obvious.

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Re: Should a Woman Offer to Pay?

Post by HappyKimHyunYoung » Tue May 17, 2011 8:59 am

I completely agree to your reasonal base.
It would be very helpful to a boy when his girl friend pay for some portion of their dating costs.
But, some exceptions exist as well, I think.
Let's consider a couple, who started their dating because the boy fell in love at first sight, but she didn't.
The boy might have tried so hard to gain her hospitality and to make her love him.
I think that the one side, whether it is male or female, who first fell in love would be the losing side in romantic relationship.
So in this case, the boy is likely to pay for every dinner to grab her mind.
Also, some couple might think that split payment 50-50 is not romatic.
Some other couple might prefer to exchange gifts rather than to go dutch or to calculate turns to pay.
For those couples who do not want going dutch, there are many other ways to reward boyfriend for his paying.
It is not fair for man to pay all, anyway.
I hope many girls would consider their boy friends' pocketbook, even if it would be only a small portion of total payment.

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Re: Should a Woman Offer to Pay?

Post by James Trotta » Sat May 21, 2011 9:26 am

I found this line pretty interesting - can you buy someone's love by paying for a few dates? Would a man or a woman who pays for everything seem more attractive somehow?
HappyKimHyunYoung wrote:Let's consider a couple, who started their dating because the boy fell in love at first sight, but she didn't.
The boy might have tried so hard to gain her hospitality and to make her love him.

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Re: Should a Woman Offer to Pay?

Post by frontdoor(leejihun) » Sat May 21, 2011 4:48 pm

it depends......

but it would be the most appropriate for general university students to split it in some proportion..

just one side for dating pay is really ridiculous.. and it is not considerate in a manner in korea.

if it would be my case, where i should pay for all, it would make real burden.

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Re: Should a Woman Offer to Pay?

Post by Naoko Happy » Sun May 22, 2011 5:29 pm

James Trotta wrote:I found this line pretty interesting - can you buy someone's love by paying for a few dates? Would a man or a woman who pays for everything seem more attractive somehow?
HappyKimHyunYoung wrote:Let's consider a couple, who started their dating because the boy fell in love at first sight, but she didn't.
The boy might have tried so hard to gain her hospitality and to make her love him.
One of my female friends, who enjoyed many dates with many men said, " I am giving my time. Mens are happy to be with me, and willing to pay." She would not meet men again if they didn't pay. Later she fall in love with one of them and got married. I felt that men didn't buy her love, but bought her time and tried to win her love.

To the question, "Would a man or a woman who pays for everything seem more attractive somehow?", I would say that a very rich man is surely attractive. But, a man who is not rich and pays for all is not attractive, because when I choose what to eat for dinner, I feel like I have to suggest something cheap!

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Re: Should a Woman Offer to Pay?

Post by Happy Song MinHo » Mon May 23, 2011 9:38 am

Yeah, I agree this is quite controversial.
Beside of sexual equality, investing time and money would be sign of affection.
So, I think both people would have to pay unless they're playing on each other.

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Re: Should a Woman Offer to Pay?

Post by FRONTDOORseolsungyeob » Mon May 23, 2011 12:24 pm

I guess there are many factors that go into a guy paying for a date. But like HappyKimHyunYoung said, majority of the men do pay for the first couple of dates because he is trying to win her heart over or is trying to impress her.

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Re: Should women pay for date?

Post by AllA+/Sian_Winstanley » Mon May 23, 2011 1:13 pm

Hi everyone, it seems this is turning into a controversial issue!

Personally, I think that if it's a first date and if the guy asked the girl out then maybe he feels some 'pressure' to pay for the date. However if it goes well and the couple go on to more dates then maybe it's fair that the girl should at least offer to split the bill... but then again I'm not sure.

I guess it depends on the personality and characters of the couple, if they're comfortable enough with each other.. or if the guy feels generous.. or if the girl is just evil. :evil: Haha

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