How much money is proper in on dating?

Talk about dating, breaking up, getting married, etc. This is where you can talk about units 2 & 4 in Authentic English Readings for Advanced Students.
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smilehyunjisung
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How much money is proper in on dating?

Post by smilehyunjisung » Thu May 26, 2011 11:16 am

In textbook, lesson 4 "Should a Woman Offer to Pay?", Some answer say that the man who is worried about his dating don't have to go expensive restaurants or some site. It means that how much money you spent in dating is important thing. Some people think how spend money can show how much love, however others think just dating with lover is enough, although they have no money and walk street all days. If so, How much money is proper in on dating?


-And I want to add some questions.

For man, Who is more attractive woman in dating? Woman to pay half or not at all.
I heared some guys feel any attractive and even feel ignored if she pay the money.

tony-w56-200200529
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Re: How much money is proper in on dating?

Post by tony-w56-200200529 » Tue Jun 07, 2011 3:01 pm

i think paying as much as you don't feel burdened is appropriate.

and about the second question...
for me, girls who try to pay or at least,try to unburden boys seemed more attractive.
if a girl just sit back and wait until somebody pays for even her dinner, i just regard her as a selfish and self centered person.

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Re: How much money is proper in on dating?

Post by Tony-w12-201103684 » Tue Jun 07, 2011 3:28 pm

I dont agree with an idea that 'more money, more love'.
A girl who loves only expensive restaurants and gifts
maybe dont loves boy but loves his money.
Also There are lots of great places even though it's free.
For the second question, i think a girl who tries to pay is more attractive.
because it means she care about her boy friend.

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Re: How much money is proper in on dating?

Post by Tony-w12-200503311 » Wed Jun 08, 2011 3:21 am

I think that today, there is NO guys who feel any attractive and even feel ignored if she pay the money.

Who on earth is he? Was he born in the Joseon Danasty period?

A cool guy is not pretentious. An poor and uneducated boy is always prtentious on money, or his clothes.

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Re: How much money is proper in on dating?

Post by Tony-w78-200800976 » Wed Jun 08, 2011 9:39 am

Thank you for your posting which is very interesting.
I don't think the amount of money "means" how much he or she loves the partner, but, to a certain degree, agree with that spending money for the partner is related with considerating the partner. In modern society these two things are never gonna be seperated.
Anyway, my answer for your question is that the proper amount of money to spend on dates absolutely depands upon how much you "want" to spend for the datings. The most important thing is that it is totally on your decision and there's no need to think too deeply about the negative response of your partner.
Except the situation that the partner has really weird mental values, there might be no one to blame you for spending too little money for them. Well, your money is yours! Oh,but be careful that this theory does not come with the situation you keep owing things someone :lol:

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Re: How much money is proper in on dating?

Post by Tony-w12-201100425# » Wed Jun 08, 2011 10:55 am

Well your question is quite interesting.
It seems you also worry about proper dating costs.
It maybe depens on what kind of person he or she is.
The smartest way is that dating with girl who has same taste with you.

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Re: How much money is proper in on dating?

Post by Tony-w56-200601427 » Wed Jun 08, 2011 1:24 pm

Really interesting question!

Well, I just want to tell one of my friends' story.
She was dating with a boy and that guy payed all of the money at the beginning of their dating.
He didn't allow her to pay some.
However, as time goes by, the man required her to pay half.

I was blamed my friend when I heard this story, however, she told me that she tried to pay!
But he didn't want it!

And as he asked her to pay some, she felt that his love toward her had been changed.

I was going to blame her on not paying money after hearing that, I could understand her mind a little bit.
That man made a mistake! He shouldn't pay all of the things.

If guys buy a dinner, then girs should buy at least a coffee or a movie.

Then maybe guys will love it!

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Re: How much money is proper in on dating?

Post by tony-w78-200901330 » Mon Jun 13, 2011 12:14 pm

Your question seems really interesting to talk about!

I don't think there is absolute standard about how much pay.
It differs from person to person... or it depends on the situation, i think.
And i don't think the amount of the money spent on the date show how much (s)he love his/her partner.

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Re: How much money is proper in on dating?

Post by lingjiang » Fri Jun 24, 2011 4:46 am

hi i am ling
i ami aslo interested in your topic
i think it is depend on what kind of person you are .what kind of living background you are having.
as i see. most of chinese guy they will pay for it on dating .but half of america guy they would like to pay separate.
they may pay one or two things .but not all of spend.
even husband and wife .mother and son .
although girl don't pay .but they will often buy some sweet gift .and won't ask you to do improper spending
is this girl you like? :P

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Re: How much money is proper in on dating?

Post by (Lost)Haein.Cho » Thu Mar 22, 2012 3:33 pm

i think it depends on situation or person.
If she or he is rich, he or she can pay much. But if they are not, they don't need to pay much money on dating.
I don't think there is a standard cost for dating.

Also, these days i heard this saying many times. When women pay the bills, men feel rather attracive to women.
So, this also depends on person? lol I also wonder about this question!!

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